I frequently have the need to optimise my strategy for people and groups from the pastoral counselling setting. These are a few of my ideas for delivering a program for healing. It’s a specific program, but I think I’d stick with these general ground rules:
Read the following as if you’re taking part in the program:
It’ll be a trek to our hearts that are deeper as we know about ourselves and each other in gaining greater awareness and understanding about the challenges we face.
These are simply a few of the factors to be aware of and to abide by as we do this work together.
I’m asking your confidence of me and of every other. Perhaps some of you do not trust so well, and assume you have valid reasons for holding back your confidence. But by you expecting principally in me as your guide, and by trusting on your peers , you will get the ability to be truthful about what takes guts to do. You’re also a part of other people’s journeys that are here. As soon as we have trust in this group, the Spirit of God will flow and a few recovery will happen for us all. Needless to say, it goes likely without saying, but I will say it anyway, what’s stated in this group should stay here. Is that known and okay? Thank you.
Now to do number 1, you will need to be secure . I not only know and respect that, but I want to let you know, I’m responsible for that. The intention of this program is to help to bring you further on your journey of recovery. If you are unsafe at any stage, or feel too vulnerable, please take courage to hold back and let me know when it’s proper for you to do this – either in the process or in a break. What I’m referring to here is you will be tempted to self-protect and to minimise the size of your problem/addiction and to externalise, which means to discuss anything else besides your own stuff. All of us do this. Don’t think you are any poorer than some of us. But in regards to your stuff, your sin, I encourage you to possess it. Stay in this place when you are sharing. If you minimise anything, reevaluate the responsibility that you give over to others for the things you can do. In psychology, there’s the expression”internal locus of control,” so we only change when we have what we can control – our own stuff. The moment we begin believing our stuff is somebody else’s fault, we give away the sole power for change we have. Let’s agree to not do that here. Yes?
Room to talk. Please trust me to the extent that you let me facilitate. The word”ease” in French means”to make easy”. Allow me to make this process as simple as it possibly can be, hard and as transformative as it’ll be, given the nature of the material we are going to be talking and pondering. I will direct and divert conversation. Don’t worry, you will have ample time to talk about, but I really do need to guarantee everybody gets an honorable chance, which isn’t necessarily”equivalent” chance, because at certain times one person needs additional time. We will need to allow for that. I’ll also see things you can not, as you are in the procedure, and sometimes I will want to home in on crucial moments as I distinguish them. Thank you. Furthermore, there will be parts of teaching that I will deliver. I love it when we could stay on track and keep the momentum going forward. Thank you.
Calling time to process test . Sometimes if we go off course or, worse, if a person starts to behave inappropriately, especially when others feel unsafe, I will call a procedure check, kind of like a time-out. We’ll have to manage that moment before we proceed. I might need to choose the fate of a single person for the interest of this group, given that I am responsible for keeping us safe. Thank you.